The# 1 Narcissistic Mother Takes Pride and Joy in Ruining Her Child For Life
A narcissistic mother is a mother with narcissistic disorder. Her self-centered behavior is so extreme that it crosses the border of normalcy and becomes a personality disorder. Narcissistic mothers are a special kind of toxic family member because they seem normal on the outside.
They look like loving mothers, but they don’t act like it. A narcissistic mother feels the need to be the center of attention at all times, and she cannot handle it when her children get more attention than she gets.
The emotional abuse of narcissistic mothers is often the most challenging and painful of all the types of abuse. Narcissism is an extremely destructive disorder of character and personal relationships. If you were raised by a narcissistic mother, or you are in a relationship with one, it is important that you gain a full understanding of the disorder and what it means to be raised by a narcissist.
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Narcissistic Mother Traits
While there are many types of narcissistic mothers, there are some traits that are common to all. These women are control freaks and believe they should have complete authority over their family. They have a very narrow definition of who is right and who is wrong.
If you don’t follow her rules, you are wrong. If you do follow her rules, you are wrong because you are not doing enough. These women are incredibly manipulative, often conning people into feeling sorry for them even though they are the cause of their own problems. They have never experienced unconditional love and they feel everyone owes them.
The narcissistic mother is rarely apologetic or remorseful, and she is a master liar. She will lie and deceive others in order to get what she wants. The most important thing to remember about the narcissistic mother is that she believes she is the center of the universe and only she knows what’s best for everyone else.
The mother’s narcissism manifests itself in many ways. She is constantly looking at herself in the mirror, and she is unable to relate to her own feelings. She always wants to be perfect and to be looked up to by others. She often feels that she is smarter than everyone else and that she is superior.
The narcissistic mother will criticize you if you do anything that she doesn’t like. She is constantly looking for something to complain about and will be highly critical of everything. She is a very insecure person and if she is questioned, she will become extremely angry and hostile.
If you criticize her or show her you are angry with her, she will respond by demeaning you. She may even try to break you emotionally. If you give in to her demands, she will become more and more abusive.
A narcissistic mother will try to change you and the people around her. She will use others for her own personal gain and will constantly ask others for help. She will blame others for her own problems because she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions. The narcissistic mother will never give and is not a team player.
What Happens to Children Who Grow Up with A Narcissistic Mother?
Narcissistic mothers are incapable of empathy, self-sacrifice, or any other positive emotion. They are often incapable of being nurturing and do not have a strong maternal instinct. Narcissistic mothers do not provide a healthy emotional environment for their children. They also neglect their children by not being a positive role model.
Mothers who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder often have to cope with their own personal issues from the past that they could never resolve. Their lack of emotional stability can lead to a lack of emotional stability in their children as well.
The narcissistic mother shows her children limited love and affection. She may not establish a nurturing relationship with her child. She may be cold and critical and not express her love or pride in her child. The narcissistic mother neglects the emotional needs of the child.
Children of a narcissistic mother learn their emotional needs will not be met by their mother because she is only concerned with her needs, creating a lack of trust in others. They learn they cannot depend on their mother for support, comfort, or stability.
Because of their narcissistic mother’s cold behavior towards them, children of narcissistic mothers develop low self-esteem and suffer from insecurity. Children of narcissistic mothers often feel inadequate. They have trouble making friends and may not form close, lasting personal and social relationships because of their traumatic experiences. They are also at risk of developing eating disorders.
Children of a narcissistic mother are often immature, so they cannot understand the feelings of others. They may develop a lack of empathy, as well as being unable to regulate their own emotions. They may also be envious of their peers and view them as inferior. Children of narcissistic mothers may also believe that they deserve to be taken care of and given special treatment.
Growing up with a narcissistic mother can have grave effects on children. In order to deal, children often feel the need to suppress their feelings and show a false self to avoid disapproval from their parents. Children of narcissists mothers will treat themselves like they are less important than everyone else. They also may struggle with winning approval from others, or seeking constant praise for their accomplishments.
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Final Thoughts
Narcissistic mothers have a very thick skin and a very thin layer of feeling. They do not feel remorse or love. They are very selfish and self-absorbed. If you have a mother like this, please understand that she is not your enemy. She is not good or bad.
She is just a person with a personality disorder. She has no feelings and cannot feel love, guilt, remorse, or empathy. She can’t help it, so please don’t blame her. The way she treats you is not your fault. It’s not your responsibility to change her. Your responsibility is to take care of yourself and to figure out how you can heal from this abuse.
If you’re a child of a narcissistic mother, you’ve probably experienced a lot of pain. Unfortunately, there’s no way to reverse what she’s done to you and your life. The most important thing you can do is to learn coping skills so you can get on with your life. You deserve a better future. If you’d like to learn more about dealing with a narcissistic mother, check out my page about dysfunctional families and how to end generations of abuse and trauma.
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